‘F’ me! ‘F’ me! ‘F’ me!
is this… is this…
(and) damned if you don’t.
While some will know the meanings of these adages:
If you are like me, you’ll not have known that they all stem from:
Being between Scylla and Charybdis
…an idiom deriving from Greek mythology (but doesn’t so much seem to stem from Ancient Greece?!?). Being stuck between Scylla and Charybdis informs the more recent proverbial advice, that is, “to choose the lesser of two evils.” This is true too for the saying, “on the horns of a dilemma.” But nowadays, phrases like: (1) “between the devil and the deep blue sea,” (2) “between a rock and a hard place” and (3), “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” imply both evils are as bad as each other. In essence these phrases now mean having to choose between two equally bad choices which both lead (almost categorically) to disaster. Is this the same as a Hobson’s choice, well yes I think so, see this post: Hobson’s choice, explained. (I mean, there really isn’t a choice is there, take the left fork and you’ll be screwed, take the right fork and you’ll be fucked (either, or, not in any pleasurable sense)).Scylla and Charybdis were mythical sea monsters/dangers noted by Homer in the Iliad. Scylla was said to be a rock shoal (described as a six-headed sea monster) on one side of a Mediterranean strait and Charybdis was a whirlpool off the coast of the other side (they were regarded as maritime hazards located close enough to each other that they posed an inescapable threat to passing sailors)–would either mode of death be the lesser of two evils?
Are these, strictly speaking, allegories? Do they reveal a hidden meaning? Not really. Look here and decide if you agree of disagree: Allegorically speaking…
Now on to the point and purpose of this post:
I am damned if I do
because it was said to me
“If you love me, you’ll leave me the fuck alone”
and thus, by not contacting you, I am currently dying repeatedly on the inside; this occurs during every minute of every waking hour. Therefore, I am:
damned if I don’t.
Get me? Do you get what I’m saying to you my sweet succulent honey bee? I’m dead without you; you became and now are my:
— the most important reason or purpose for someone or something’s existence
= to speak or write about something in a poetic and/or overly exaggerated way
— To talk in a highly enthusiastic and effusive way (i.e, to wax poetic).
— “He waxed lyrical about his splendid and amazing mentor-cum-muse.”
Wax and wane
— To undergo alternate increases and decreases.
— “The ebb and flow of the ocean tides wax and wane but my love for you stays at a constant fever pitch.”
In terms of waxing poetically these other words come to mind:
— Melodramatic behaviour designed to attract attention.
— “By now, she was accustomed to to his hysterical histrionics.”
— Using more words than are needed.
— “It is said that much academic language is obscure and verbose.”
— Characteristic of melodrama, especially in being exaggerated or overemotional.
— “Dr Josē flung the door open with a melodramatic flourish.”
— To represent (something) as being larger, better, or worse than it really is.
— A person who habitually responds to situations in a melodramatic way.
= bending the rules to make one’s art more captivating.
Poetic license means the ‘license’ or ‘liberty’ taken by a poet, prose writer, or other artist in deviating from facts and genre conventions etc. so as to be able to produce more interesting and/or effective artwork.
For instance, we know that we should follow poetic rhyming conventions and syllable and stanza counts but sometimes, the message is more important than the mode so, we take the liberty of scrapping some of the rules every once in a while (see: “Sun, Sand &”).
Why not see this post too: ‘Poetic justice’
**** Standing on the shoulders of giants. This metaphor/phrase/idiom: ‘of dwarfs standing on the shoulders of giants’ (Latin: nanos gigantum humeris insidentes) means, discovering truth by building on previous discoveries. This idea/notion has been traced to the 12th c. and is attributed to Bernard of Chartres. Famously, in 1675, Isaac Newton wrote the following, “if I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants.”
has now been served
Poetic justice is a literary device in which ultimately virtue is rewarded and viciousness is punished. In current usage it is often accompanied by an ironic twist of fate related to the individual in question’s own actions and behaviour.
‘Getting a taste of one’s own medicine’
Typically medicine don’t taste nice. Thus, if you make people feel unappreciated, insecure, jealous and anxious, you’ve little right to complain if they turn around and do the same back to you.
‘What goes around, comes around’
Similarly, what goes around comes around, means that if you treat people badly, you can’t be too surprised if one day you find yourself being treated in that same kind of way.
The fact of experiencing a fitting or deserved retribution for one’s actions.
The punishment inflicted on someone as vengeance for their wrong doing or criminal actions.
The punishment inflicted or retribution exacted for causing an injury or having done something wrong.
A form of behaviour showing high moral standards.
To be deliberately cruel and/or violent.
any means necessary
‘By hook or by crook’ is an English phrase meaning “by any means necessary”, suggesting that any means possible should be taken to accomplish a goal. The phrase is old and the first currently known written instance of it is the Middle English Controversial Tracts of John Wycliffe.
One way, or another, I’m gunna gunna get ya
John Wycliffe (c. 1323–1384) was an English scholastic philosopher, theologian, reformer and a professor at the University of Oxford. He became an influential dissident within the Roman Catholic priesthood during the 14th c. and is considered an important predecessor to Protestantism.
Save. Our. Soul.
A message in a bottle is a form of communication in which a message is sealed in a container (typically a bottle) and thrown into the sea.
Messages in bottles have been used to send (1) distress messages and/or to carry letters or reports from those believing themselves to be doomed (2), in scientific studies of ocean currents, as memorial tributes and (3), to send deceased loved ones’ ashes on a final journey.
Love letters have also been sent as messages in bottles. Indeed, the lore surrounding messages in bottles has often been of a romantic or poetic nature.
Nowadays, the phrase, message in a bottle, has expanded to include metaphorical uses (uses beyond its traditional and literal meaning). Say for example, sending an estranged lover an email begging for a reprieve whilst knowing a reply, let alone a reprieve is rather unlikely.
message in a bottle